Couples, who focus on romance without allowing time to assess their life together, may be setting themselves -- and their marriage -- up for failure, Consider the questions below as True Lovers breaks down the things you need to know before getting married.
Allowing time to get to know each other -- a courtship of at least a year or, better yet, two to three years -- allows time for potential partners to interact with each other in all kinds of situations and to observe how the other interacts with family and friends, at work and in the community, Olsen says.
"Relationships that began as friendships and evolve into a romantic relationship typically seem to fare better over the long haul," she says. Olsen advises prospective partners to talk about their goals, values and expectations before making a commitment to marriage.
Ask yourself the following questions:
How does each partner define marriage? What is each prospective partner's expectation for a marriage? Is marriage viewed as a lifetime commitment? If not, why?
Why marry? Is one prospective partner looking for financial security or status? Is the other looking for someone to organize their life or maintain the home? Is the desire to marry driven by hormones -- or a desire for companionship? What is the sexual expectation?
Are financial management goals compatible? Whether a saver or spender, can prospective partners work out a financial management plan that covers the basics, saves for emergencies and the future, and still allows some personal discretionary money? Does either prospective partner have school loans, credit card or other debt? If so, what is the plan to pay off the debt? Keeping debts hidden from a prospective spouse is certain to cause problems later on, Olsen says.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
The Story of Valentine
Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday? The history of Valentine's Day — and its patron saint — is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men — his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor's daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
While some believe that Valentine's Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine's death or burial — which probably occurred around 270 A.D — others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine's feast day in the middle of February in an effort to 'christianize' celebrations of the pagan Lupercalia festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat called spelt throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at the sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would then sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification.
The boys then sliced the goat's hide into strips, dipped them in the sacrificial blood and took to the streets, gently slapping both women and fields of crops with the goathide strips. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed being touched with the hides because it was believed the strips would make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city's bachelors would then each choose a name out of the urn and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. The Roman 'lottery' system for romantic pairing was deemed un-Christian and outlawed. Later, during the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds' mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February — Valentine's Day — should be a day for romance. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. The greeting, which was written in 1415, is part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England. Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.
In Great Britain, Valentine's Day began to be popularly celebrated around the seventeenth century. By the middle of the eighteenth century, it was common for friends and lovers in all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes. By the end of the century, printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one's feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine's Day greetings. Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began to sell the first mass-produced valentines in America.
Everywhere today, many people involve in this celebration without any knowledge of its origin!
Love is with us and should be shown everyday as best as we can! Be innovative, keep tripping ur partner everyday, don’t wait for no particular day! This is just my view!
Agape!
Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor's daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
While some believe that Valentine's Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine's death or burial — which probably occurred around 270 A.D — others claim that the Christian church may have decided to celebrate Valentine's feast day in the middle of February in an effort to 'christianize' celebrations of the pagan Lupercalia festival. In ancient Rome, February was the official beginning of spring and was considered a time for purification. Houses were ritually cleansed by sweeping them out and then sprinkling salt and a type of wheat called spelt throughout their interiors. Lupercalia, which began at the ides of February, February 15, was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus.
To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at the sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would then sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification.
The boys then sliced the goat's hide into strips, dipped them in the sacrificial blood and took to the streets, gently slapping both women and fields of crops with the goathide strips. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed being touched with the hides because it was believed the strips would make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city's bachelors would then each choose a name out of the urn and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine's Day around 498 A.D. The Roman 'lottery' system for romantic pairing was deemed un-Christian and outlawed. Later, during the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds' mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of February — Valentine's Day — should be a day for romance. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. The greeting, which was written in 1415, is part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England. Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.
In Great Britain, Valentine's Day began to be popularly celebrated around the seventeenth century. By the middle of the eighteenth century, it was common for friends and lovers in all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes. By the end of the century, printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one's feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine's Day greetings. Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began to sell the first mass-produced valentines in America.
Everywhere today, many people involve in this celebration without any knowledge of its origin!
Love is with us and should be shown everyday as best as we can! Be innovative, keep tripping ur partner everyday, don’t wait for no particular day! This is just my view!
Agape!
Monday, March 1, 2010
What is Purpose?
Purpose is the original intent for creating a thing, original reason for existence. It is the force behind the fulfillment of destiny and It is the secret of success and the key to realization.
Biblically, Purpose is the intention of God for creating man. It is man's reason for existence.
Jesus: His purpose is to save His people from sin.
Paul: His purpose was to preach Jesus among the heathen.
To have no aim for living is to live an endless life and mindless life. Your purpose in life is you in action. If a man has no purpose for living, he is not fit to live. Purpose enables you to put action in life. It makes for enthronement when discovered and pursued diligently.
How to know you’re in life.
Purpose cannot be determined but discovered. You cannot wake up one day and say this is my purpose except you have discovered it of course from the source, God, who is your creator; He knows why He created you.
How to discovered your purpose.
- Studying His Word.
- Prayer and Supplication.
- By the leading of the Holy Spirit.
The pursuit of your purpose.
After discovering your purpose, the next thing is to pursue it. Pursuit is an action word. It is a force. You can never realize your purpose until you pursue it. It is what gives value to your purpose. One thing is to discover your purpose another is to pursue it. Great purpose requires great pursuit.
What is Pursuit?
Pursuit is the relevant force that gives motion to purpose. Until you pursue your pursue your purpose, you cannot possess it. The benefits accrued to it will be illusive to you. A disciplined pursuit of your purpose will earn you a Kingdom. Every object assumes a state of rest until a relevant force is applied to it. Great purpose requires great pursuit. Once you discover your purpose, write it down, digest it, make it plain, so that people will understand it with you and run with you. If you do not understand it, you cannot pursue it. Secondly, if you don't understand it, you will not be able to make it plain for others to run with you.
Benefits of purposeful life.
1. Knowing your purpose gives meaning to your life.
2. Purpose simplfies life.
3. Purpose focuses your life.
4. Purpose motivates your life.
5. Purpose prepares you for eternity.
Finally, discover your purpose, be focused and fulfill the purpose. A man with a purpose is a miracle and blessing to his generation. The greatest tragedy is not death but life without purpose.
Many people think that reading money books and attending financial seminars alone would make them wealthy. This is an illusion. It is only knowledge that is applied that can bring tangible results. So, if you want to be truly wealthy, you must set goals and develop the discipline to make these goals real. It is possible.
Hard work: All hard work bring a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.
Laziness: A sleeping lobster is carried away by the water current.
Earnings: Never depend on a single source of income. (At least make your investments get you second earning).
Spending: If you buy things you don't need, you wil soon sell things you need.
Savings: Don't save what is left after spending; spend what is left after saving.
Borrowings: The borrower becomes the lender's slave.
Accounting: It's no use caring an umbrella, if your shoes are leaking.
Auditing: Beware of little expenses; A small leak can sink a large ship.
Risks - taking: Never test the dept of the river with both feet. (Have an alternate plan ready).
Investment: Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Biblically, Purpose is the intention of God for creating man. It is man's reason for existence.
Jesus: His purpose is to save His people from sin.
Paul: His purpose was to preach Jesus among the heathen.
To have no aim for living is to live an endless life and mindless life. Your purpose in life is you in action. If a man has no purpose for living, he is not fit to live. Purpose enables you to put action in life. It makes for enthronement when discovered and pursued diligently.
How to know you’re in life.
Purpose cannot be determined but discovered. You cannot wake up one day and say this is my purpose except you have discovered it of course from the source, God, who is your creator; He knows why He created you.
How to discovered your purpose.
- Studying His Word.
- Prayer and Supplication.
- By the leading of the Holy Spirit.
The pursuit of your purpose.
After discovering your purpose, the next thing is to pursue it. Pursuit is an action word. It is a force. You can never realize your purpose until you pursue it. It is what gives value to your purpose. One thing is to discover your purpose another is to pursue it. Great purpose requires great pursuit.
What is Pursuit?
Pursuit is the relevant force that gives motion to purpose. Until you pursue your pursue your purpose, you cannot possess it. The benefits accrued to it will be illusive to you. A disciplined pursuit of your purpose will earn you a Kingdom. Every object assumes a state of rest until a relevant force is applied to it. Great purpose requires great pursuit. Once you discover your purpose, write it down, digest it, make it plain, so that people will understand it with you and run with you. If you do not understand it, you cannot pursue it. Secondly, if you don't understand it, you will not be able to make it plain for others to run with you.
Benefits of purposeful life.
1. Knowing your purpose gives meaning to your life.
2. Purpose simplfies life.
3. Purpose focuses your life.
4. Purpose motivates your life.
5. Purpose prepares you for eternity.
Finally, discover your purpose, be focused and fulfill the purpose. A man with a purpose is a miracle and blessing to his generation. The greatest tragedy is not death but life without purpose.
Many people think that reading money books and attending financial seminars alone would make them wealthy. This is an illusion. It is only knowledge that is applied that can bring tangible results. So, if you want to be truly wealthy, you must set goals and develop the discipline to make these goals real. It is possible.
Hard work: All hard work bring a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.
Laziness: A sleeping lobster is carried away by the water current.
Earnings: Never depend on a single source of income. (At least make your investments get you second earning).
Spending: If you buy things you don't need, you wil soon sell things you need.
Savings: Don't save what is left after spending; spend what is left after saving.
Borrowings: The borrower becomes the lender's slave.
Accounting: It's no use caring an umbrella, if your shoes are leaking.
Auditing: Beware of little expenses; A small leak can sink a large ship.
Risks - taking: Never test the dept of the river with both feet. (Have an alternate plan ready).
Investment: Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
HOW TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF
Motivation is what keeps us moving even it seems there is no hope for survival. There are lots of potholes along the path of success, and if you fall into any, motivation is the pulley machine that would move you up the path. As paracetamol is the easy to reach antidote for headache, so also is motivation for those who want to be successful. There is no need to fold your arms, waiting to be consoled. Have you ever dreamt about something that appears impossible? There is a solution to whatever your dreams and vision are. Let’s study how airplanes came into existence. In 1904, the Edinburgh society of Engineers said that it was impossible for a metal object to go up in the air. Their resolution was the best they knew at the time it was passed, but that did not make it right. Not until 1908, when Orville and Wilbur, the Wright Brothers flew the first airplane, contrary to the resolution of the Edinburgh society of Engineers. What did the Wright Brothers do? They simply motivated themselves. So, the solution to your seemingly difficult dreams is to tell yourself ‘ I can overcome the impossibility of my dreams.’ “ A man’s best at a particular time is not always his ultimate, said David O. Abioye, the author of Productive Thinking. Look at every challenge in the face and say to it, “ I can overcome you.” Take up what men have given up and tell yourself it can be done. There is great power stored up in your mind, so don’t lose it to lack of use. Motivate yourself to move to your destination.
MARRIAGE TIPS
Make Breakfast: Making your partner breakfast may not sound like much but it’s a thoughtful act at the start of the day. In small way, it reconfirms the bond and connection between husband and wife. However, this only works if the favour is returned by your other half on a regular basis. If you make his breakfast 99days out of 100, then not only will you begin to see it as just another chore but he will take it for granted and there place little or no emphasis on it.
Be nice to his friends: Much like your husband’s family, his friends can probably be hit or miss. But unlike with his family, you may not fell that you need to make an effort to get on with is friends. In some cases, this can be areal mistake. Your husband’s close friends are probably an important part of his life. He could be therefore be very disappointed or even angry that you don’t make an effort with them. Also, men do listen to their friends and usually greatly value their advice. Do you really want your husband being advised by someone who knows that you don’t like them?
Say sorry: In normally life, most people will automatically say sorry when they do something wrong. But in married life, many couples lose this aspect of common courtesy. It’s a common mistake to think, I don’t need to bother saying sorry to my husband or he knows I m sorry anyway. Saying sorry (and meaning it) shows that you’re aware you have done something to upset your partner and that you regret doing it.
Things change: The world continually changes. Everything and everyone evolves over time. Nothing truly stays the same, and a marriage is no exception. Your relationship will develop as time passes and your lives change. If you want a happy marriage, you must embrace these changes. The worst possible thing you can do is try to resist.
The spark will fade: Many women expect to feel the same way about their husbands after five years of marriage as they did when they first tied the knot. They expect to feel the same excitement and experience the same spark as they did at the very beginning of their relationship. However, in most cases the spark will slowly fade as your marriage racks up the years. But this doesn’t mean your love for one another has diminished. It simply means you have become more relaxed, more comfortable with your partner. Your love actually grows deeper and the bond between you stronger.
Men talk less: A common complaint amongst married women is that their husbands don’t talk enough. This can cause real problems in a marriage because women can take this as a sign of disinterest or lack of feeling. However, the truth is men simply talk less then women. Women love to chat but men, on the whole, would rather read the paper or watch the television.
Also women are much more likely to seek advise from their husbands. Generally, they feel a problem shared is a problem halved, and have no issue with seeking advice from their spouse. Men on the other hand, prefer to work things out for themselves, and are their help or opinion.
Timing is everything: In all aspects of life, timing is everything. And marriage is certainly no exception. You need to pick your moments. Decide when is right time to discuss certain issues or make particular comments. It may sound like little more than common sense but a surprising number of married couples completely ignore this golden rule. Blurting things out at inopportune moments accounts for a high percentage of the arguments between husbands and wives. So many disagreements and heated exchange can be avoided by simply asking yourself, is now the best time to say this?
Praise Him: You may think your husband is a strong, unflinching brute but even the toughest of men need to fell valued. Sometimes they yearn to be told, well done or you made a great job of that. In many cases, the praise from his wife is the only praise a husband ever receives. So make your man feel great with a few well chosen words of praise. Remember, if you have a happy husband, you’re half way to a happy marriage.
Keep it personal: Any personal problems you and your husband may be having should be kept just that – personal. Discussion sensitive issues with friends or family is not advisable. Although a problem shred is a problem halved, and you may well receive some good advice, there could also be negative consequences. Do you really want your friends or family to look at your husband in an unfavourable light? And how will he feel, if one day ( which is often the case) , he finds out that you’ve been shouting your mouth off about something he thought was just between the two of you.
Be nice to his friends: Much like your husband’s family, his friends can probably be hit or miss. But unlike with his family, you may not fell that you need to make an effort to get on with is friends. In some cases, this can be areal mistake. Your husband’s close friends are probably an important part of his life. He could be therefore be very disappointed or even angry that you don’t make an effort with them. Also, men do listen to their friends and usually greatly value their advice. Do you really want your husband being advised by someone who knows that you don’t like them?
Say sorry: In normally life, most people will automatically say sorry when they do something wrong. But in married life, many couples lose this aspect of common courtesy. It’s a common mistake to think, I don’t need to bother saying sorry to my husband or he knows I m sorry anyway. Saying sorry (and meaning it) shows that you’re aware you have done something to upset your partner and that you regret doing it.
Things change: The world continually changes. Everything and everyone evolves over time. Nothing truly stays the same, and a marriage is no exception. Your relationship will develop as time passes and your lives change. If you want a happy marriage, you must embrace these changes. The worst possible thing you can do is try to resist.
The spark will fade: Many women expect to feel the same way about their husbands after five years of marriage as they did when they first tied the knot. They expect to feel the same excitement and experience the same spark as they did at the very beginning of their relationship. However, in most cases the spark will slowly fade as your marriage racks up the years. But this doesn’t mean your love for one another has diminished. It simply means you have become more relaxed, more comfortable with your partner. Your love actually grows deeper and the bond between you stronger.
Men talk less: A common complaint amongst married women is that their husbands don’t talk enough. This can cause real problems in a marriage because women can take this as a sign of disinterest or lack of feeling. However, the truth is men simply talk less then women. Women love to chat but men, on the whole, would rather read the paper or watch the television.
Also women are much more likely to seek advise from their husbands. Generally, they feel a problem shared is a problem halved, and have no issue with seeking advice from their spouse. Men on the other hand, prefer to work things out for themselves, and are their help or opinion.
Timing is everything: In all aspects of life, timing is everything. And marriage is certainly no exception. You need to pick your moments. Decide when is right time to discuss certain issues or make particular comments. It may sound like little more than common sense but a surprising number of married couples completely ignore this golden rule. Blurting things out at inopportune moments accounts for a high percentage of the arguments between husbands and wives. So many disagreements and heated exchange can be avoided by simply asking yourself, is now the best time to say this?
Praise Him: You may think your husband is a strong, unflinching brute but even the toughest of men need to fell valued. Sometimes they yearn to be told, well done or you made a great job of that. In many cases, the praise from his wife is the only praise a husband ever receives. So make your man feel great with a few well chosen words of praise. Remember, if you have a happy husband, you’re half way to a happy marriage.
Keep it personal: Any personal problems you and your husband may be having should be kept just that – personal. Discussion sensitive issues with friends or family is not advisable. Although a problem shred is a problem halved, and you may well receive some good advice, there could also be negative consequences. Do you really want your friends or family to look at your husband in an unfavourable light? And how will he feel, if one day ( which is often the case) , he finds out that you’ve been shouting your mouth off about something he thought was just between the two of you.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
How to introduce your fiancé to your parents
It is always good to introduce whoever you are going out with to your parents before you become too committed to one another this may be a big step to take, depending on your parent’s attitude to your relationship with the opposite sex. If your partner is acceptable to you parents, it fosters more the commitment in your relationship. It also determines the extent to which you special man is going to get along with your family.
To make an interesting attempt at introducing either your fiancé or fiancée to your parents, make sure you follow these seven steps:
Define your relationship
If you have established the fact that both of you are getting married and serious about settling down, do not refer to him as a boyfriend when introducing him to your parents. Rather, be clear about your term of relationship by letting them know he is someone you want to marry.
Let both parties know about each other’s likes and dislikes
Let your fiancé know before hand about your parent’s attitude to your relationship with the opposite sex, their moral and religious principle, likewise their likes and dislikes. Also, let your parents know about your fiancé. It will pave the way for decent small talk while avoiding awkward missteps.
Set some rules
Tell your fiancé how to act. Let him know how to greet your parents, especially if he is not from your tribe, knowing full well that Africans respect moral values, and let him know how to address your parents, whether as dad and mum, or sir and ma.
Do not let his coming be a surprise
Inform your parents before hand of your plan to introduce your partner to them. You can be so sure that they will probably want to tidy up the house and be a little prepared before you show up with the love of you life.
Start Up with a Friendly Conversation
Be careful not to start discussing irrelevant topics that are likely to cause distraction and trigger disaffection. Do not forget that first impression matters a lot.
Create a Conductive Environment
If your parents are the reserved type, make sure you act as a friendly liaison between your fiancé and your parents. Spark up conversation that will loosen their nerves, in a short while, you can be so sure that they will be interested in knowing more about him, and in so doing, you would have made your fiancé feel secured meeting your parents for the first time.
Show appreciation to both parties
Above all, commit your plans unto God’s hand, he is the creator of all, and if thins go well, make sure you show appreciation to your parents and fiancé.
To make an interesting attempt at introducing either your fiancé or fiancée to your parents, make sure you follow these seven steps:
Define your relationship
If you have established the fact that both of you are getting married and serious about settling down, do not refer to him as a boyfriend when introducing him to your parents. Rather, be clear about your term of relationship by letting them know he is someone you want to marry.
Let both parties know about each other’s likes and dislikes
Let your fiancé know before hand about your parent’s attitude to your relationship with the opposite sex, their moral and religious principle, likewise their likes and dislikes. Also, let your parents know about your fiancé. It will pave the way for decent small talk while avoiding awkward missteps.
Set some rules
Tell your fiancé how to act. Let him know how to greet your parents, especially if he is not from your tribe, knowing full well that Africans respect moral values, and let him know how to address your parents, whether as dad and mum, or sir and ma.
Do not let his coming be a surprise
Inform your parents before hand of your plan to introduce your partner to them. You can be so sure that they will probably want to tidy up the house and be a little prepared before you show up with the love of you life.
Start Up with a Friendly Conversation
Be careful not to start discussing irrelevant topics that are likely to cause distraction and trigger disaffection. Do not forget that first impression matters a lot.
Create a Conductive Environment
If your parents are the reserved type, make sure you act as a friendly liaison between your fiancé and your parents. Spark up conversation that will loosen their nerves, in a short while, you can be so sure that they will be interested in knowing more about him, and in so doing, you would have made your fiancé feel secured meeting your parents for the first time.
Show appreciation to both parties
Above all, commit your plans unto God’s hand, he is the creator of all, and if thins go well, make sure you show appreciation to your parents and fiancé.
PLAYING HARD TO GET COULD BE COSTLY
Mabel is young. She is pretty. She has got a great job and like bees to honey, every man desires her. In fact, she gets marriage proposals like the air she breathes. But that was in my prime, she states. Then, I was between 24 and 25 years old and I had the world at my feet and I thought I could easily get a man whenever I was set for marriage. Ironically, I clocked 34 years two weeks ago and I am still as single as a tailor’s needle.
The last proposal was on my 26th birthday when harry, a young lecturer proposed to me. I knew he wanted me badly and was always talking about life together. He had an aged mother who wanted him married. So imagine the pressure on me. My answer was always: I need time. Not that I didn’t like him, I was also in love but how can I agree to a proposal from a guy so cheaply?
I thought l should play hard –to-get a bit and allow him know that he had other contenders. How wrong I was. By the time I kept him waiting for six months, he stopped coming and calling. Initially, I thought it was a joke but when it was almost a year and I saw a friend of his, I knew the game was up. Harry got married to anther woman. His friend told me that he thought I didn’t love him and had to get married. Though I am still pretty, I am frantically searching for a mate.
Henrietta is 42. She is an architect and works in a federal ministry in Abuja. To think that I served here, worked here and still single is unbelievable, she says. I have lost count of the many suitors I had when I was a youth corps member. They came in droves and I was scared. There was this particular guy who was ready to marry me before I ended my service but I was scared.
I was just 23, pretty and had not known the world. I told him to give me time, which he did. Along the line, another guy came but he was richer and ready to take me abroad for further studies. I thought of my mother (a widow) and how she would feel if I left her. So, I just played a fast one on him collected his gifts and refused his offer. I almost ended up as a second wife to an army general during the military era. I got landed property, cars and foreign trips from him, he was quite generous and was ready to marry me but my problem was his wife. She threatened to kill me if I attempted marrying her husband and I decided being a mistress.
Maybe the period of nursing the man and meeting his needs saw me growing older. I had no time for younger suitors and realized that I was in my early 30s. then, I tried making myself available to other men but I had already been tagged General’s wife and none wanted me. Though alive, I have called off the affair with him (heard he is sating a youth corps member) and I have resorted to getting a good husband from the church I now attend.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Sex and Love!! Does having sex mean l'll fall in Love?
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
Pre-Marital Sex: because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
Does having sex mean I'll fall in love? Being in love sometimes leads to sex, but having sex will not guarantee that you or your partner will fall in love. So, if you're using sex to get love, you'll probably be disappointed. Sex means something different to everyone. So does love. Sometimes, having sex makes you feel like you're in love, but it can fool you. You think you're in love because of the way a person makes you feel physically -- not because of who they are and what you give to each other. Also, strange as it sounds, having sex too soon can actually thwart love. When two people get too physical, too quickly, they sometimes get embarrassed and pull away from each other. It's easy to bare your body -- much harder to bare your soul. So sometimes, sex feels like the fast way to love and intimacy. It's not. Truth is couples who take their time to become friends and are waiting till they get married before having sex usually become closer and more intimate. And that's love.
Pre-Marital Sex: because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
Does having sex mean I'll fall in love? Being in love sometimes leads to sex, but having sex will not guarantee that you or your partner will fall in love. So, if you're using sex to get love, you'll probably be disappointed. Sex means something different to everyone. So does love. Sometimes, having sex makes you feel like you're in love, but it can fool you. You think you're in love because of the way a person makes you feel physically -- not because of who they are and what you give to each other. Also, strange as it sounds, having sex too soon can actually thwart love. When two people get too physical, too quickly, they sometimes get embarrassed and pull away from each other. It's easy to bare your body -- much harder to bare your soul. So sometimes, sex feels like the fast way to love and intimacy. It's not. Truth is couples who take their time to become friends and are waiting till they get married before having sex usually become closer and more intimate. And that's love.
Days of love (Valentine)
Send an LYC e-card: Send your love an e-card today to kick off your days of love. If you have trouble choosing just one, send one every day until Valentine’s Day! No membership required, totally free, and sure to put a smile on their face. LYC has new cards to choose from every week.
Dinner in Bed: Pamper your love tonight with dinner in bed. Casual or elegant picnics in bed are a fun, romantic way to step outside of the box and connect with your partner. See tips and ideas here.
Desktop Theme: "Like so many out there, there my partner lives overseas. For Valentine's Day, I created a Windows desktop theme of myself for him. I made icons for the recycle bin, wallpaper, and even cursors. I didn’t get around to making sounds (which would've been lines from our favorite songs) but I made great screensavers. I make two different themes -- a "nice" theme and a "naughty" one. I zipped each theme up individually and sent them both to him. Watching his face on the webcam as he opened them, realizing what they were, then exploring them even more was absolutely wonderful and he adored them. Especially the cursors in the naughty theme, hehe." --Submitted by Shiney Angel
Take an LYC love quiz together: With questions that range from your favorite childhood memories to what you’ve always wanted to do in bed, these love quizzes will have you sharing and connecting like never before.
Make them a good old fashioned compilation CD: Burn them a disk of great songs today. Choose love songs that tell how you feel, songs from your favorite movies, songs on their favorites list, or a well planned out mood trip (guide how your love will feel from the minute they leave the house to when they get to work and then back home with your playlist – make them laugh, touch their soul and remind them of just how much you care). Package it up real sweet or slip it into their car CD player for a fun surprise.
Read to each other from a favorite novel, book of poetry, or erotica: If you don't already have some, LYC has plenty of reader-submitted romantic stories, poems, and erotica to choose from. See more bedtime romance ideas.
Dinner in Bed: Pamper your love tonight with dinner in bed. Casual or elegant picnics in bed are a fun, romantic way to step outside of the box and connect with your partner. See tips and ideas here.
Desktop Theme: "Like so many out there, there my partner lives overseas. For Valentine's Day, I created a Windows desktop theme of myself for him. I made icons for the recycle bin, wallpaper, and even cursors. I didn’t get around to making sounds (which would've been lines from our favorite songs) but I made great screensavers. I make two different themes -- a "nice" theme and a "naughty" one. I zipped each theme up individually and sent them both to him. Watching his face on the webcam as he opened them, realizing what they were, then exploring them even more was absolutely wonderful and he adored them. Especially the cursors in the naughty theme, hehe." --Submitted by Shiney Angel
Take an LYC love quiz together: With questions that range from your favorite childhood memories to what you’ve always wanted to do in bed, these love quizzes will have you sharing and connecting like never before.
Make them a good old fashioned compilation CD: Burn them a disk of great songs today. Choose love songs that tell how you feel, songs from your favorite movies, songs on their favorites list, or a well planned out mood trip (guide how your love will feel from the minute they leave the house to when they get to work and then back home with your playlist – make them laugh, touch their soul and remind them of just how much you care). Package it up real sweet or slip it into their car CD player for a fun surprise.
Read to each other from a favorite novel, book of poetry, or erotica: If you don't already have some, LYC has plenty of reader-submitted romantic stories, poems, and erotica to choose from. See more bedtime romance ideas.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
How to get the man you love to love you in return
This is a difficult subject to tackle because there are those people who argue that no matter what a person does or does not do they cannot make another person love them. However, other people disagree and say that it is possible to make someone fall in love with you.
Believing, that it is possible to make someone fall in love with you is where most relationships begin. If you have faith in yourself and you believe that a relationship will grow into a long and lasting loving relationship then you have accomplished the hardest part of the task.
If you truly love a man you can gain his love in return, however be careful and do not try so hard that you begin to smother him and drive him away. Start simple and small simple gestures like eye contact and a long gazing smile will work for the initial icebreaker.
If the man approaches, you for the first time simply offer him the chance to sit with you, to hang out, and to chat about something he may have on his mind. Often times this will show the man you care to listen to what he may have to say. Simple little things such as a brief touch here and there is a sign to the man you love that you want to feel him and touch him. This shows him your affectionate side and you need to and want to have contact with him. Try inviting him over to your home for a quiet dinner and some movies fix a nice hearty meal or ask him what he likes and get something form a restaurant and bring it home. On the other hand, pizza delivered in and movies are a nice way to spend less time cooking and more time with him. This should be after you have spent some time with him never welcome a strange man into your home until you know him and are comfortable with him being there alone with you.
Next surprise him for lunch or bring him a special lunch one day for no special reason or make the lunch a special reason just so you could see him and spend some extra time with him. This is always nice if he has the time on his lunch break to do this. Hint and ask first to see how long his breaks are and when he can or does take his breaks then be early so he has plenty of time to enjoy the meal and does not have to scarf it down then return to work. This way he can eat and visit with you then have time for the meal to settle before he returns to work.
These are just some small things and way to make a man feel special and loved and soon you should begin to feel his love in return. Do not feel bad or discouraged if the man does not tell you that he loves you soon after the relationship begins this is a difficult thing for most men to do. This shows feeling and maybe a sign of weakness to allow people into their hearts is scary. Yes, I said scary for a man to allow feeling for another person especially a woman. However, it does happen it will just take time allow him the time he needs and continue to show him your love as much as possible.
What are some of the things you can look for in order to know if someone really cares or has interest in you?
In the beginning of a potential relationship you should look for the simple things, like are they attempting to contact you in some fashion? Understand that if someone calls you they had to be thinking of you first in order to initiate the call. The same thing goes with an email, a text message, or even a card in the mail. Hopefully, in this stage, their intent is to get to know you on a friendship level. In the dating stages you should be looking to see if his or her interests are reflective of their behavior. Take your time and determine if they are content with talking to you on the phone, see if he or she truly enjoys and appreciates those kinds of opportunities.
When you are together with someone ascertain if he or she is enjoying being with you, or if they are trying to initiate something beyond spending quality time with you. Remember that there are many people who may find you physically attractive and they may wish to pursue that aspect of a relationship. The physical aspect of a relationship should be reserved for the substantial bonding of marital bliss. Understand that your judgment will be clouded by your emotions if you allow physical intimacy into your relationship foundation. You want a guy or a gal that is enjoying your companionship and fellowship. Get a feeling for his or her desire to associate with you as a buddy or pal. Let go of all those romantic dreams and fantasies until the relationship has matured enough to warrant it. As time goes along determine by their actions if he or she is looking forward to making contact with you on a daily basis. The more time you spend together in communication and in companionship, the greater your bonding. Determine if he or she is putting off other things in order to make room to spend quality time with you. Are they going out of their way to be with you? Or are you feeling like you have been put on a shelf while he or she is pursuing other interests?
Another thing to look for is the things that he or she may be willing to do for you, as well as the gifts they may give you, (as long as it does not appear that they are trying to buy you). Generally if a guy brings you flowers or other small gifts that is a positive. However if it appears as though he is trying to impress you with his financial wealth in some manner, that might say to proceed with caution. Look for simple things, like are they trying to help you accomplish things that are important to you? If you tell him or her that your car needs washing, do they ask if they can assist you? If he or she did, it would establish a positive intent. If they are going grocery shopping do they ask if they can pick anything up for you? Remember it’s the thought that counts and these kinds of actions may demonstrate an otherness mindset.
THE PERFECT WEDDING DAY
Going by my experience as an events photographer and cinematographer, I have been able to observe errors made by brides and grooms when they planned their wedding.
The list is countless.
1. Forgetting the wedding ring at home.
2. Delaying the wedding because of a person or group of people.
3. Wedding on an environmental sanitation day
4. Letting too many hands in the planning.
5. Ignoring golden rules on planning an event
6. Last minute spending of little details no taken care of.
7. Delaying the congregation.
8. Undersized or oversized wedding apparels.
9. Readiness mentally and spiritually.
10. Décor on the vehicle taking her to church.
2. Adhere to the budget.
3. Know what you want.
4. Have a theme.
5. Chose your colors and make sure it rhymes with your aso-ebi.
6. Know your vendors.
7. Get a suitable venue. Consider the closeness to the church and also its capacity for your guest.
8. Learn your lines.
9. Call your spouse to know how ready you are.
10. Enjoy the day and be natural.
If these guidelines are well adhered to, I can assure you that your wedding will come out exactly the way you dreamed about it.
If you need a wedding or event planner, photographer/ cinematographer, live cast of your events on plasma screens and projectors, studio pictures, souvenir shots as well as television production, call Adeoye Adeshina on 08037145182 or write us on blackandproudmediaproductions@gmail.com. also visit. http://hottestinformations.blogspot.com/
One Love!
The list is countless.
1. Forgetting the wedding ring at home.
2. Delaying the wedding because of a person or group of people.
3. Wedding on an environmental sanitation day
4. Letting too many hands in the planning.
5. Ignoring golden rules on planning an event
6. Last minute spending of little details no taken care of.
7. Delaying the congregation.
8. Undersized or oversized wedding apparels.
9. Readiness mentally and spiritually.
10. Décor on the vehicle taking her to church.
The list goes on and on but there are little details that need to be adhered to when planning a day which you will be celebrated like never before. On planning your wedding there are things to be noted and there are riles on making your choices. While some expensive weddings ends up as a flop and some cheap weddings happen to be on a moderate scale, the couple while planning should consider the guidelines under listed.
1. Write a budget.
2. Adhere to the budget.
3. Know what you want.
4. Have a theme.
5. Chose your colors and make sure it rhymes with your aso-ebi.
6. Know your vendors.
7. Get a suitable venue. Consider the closeness to the church and also its capacity for your guest.
8. Learn your lines.
9. Call your spouse to know how ready you are.
10. Enjoy the day and be natural.
If these guidelines are well adhered to, I can assure you that your wedding will come out exactly the way you dreamed about it.
If you need a wedding or event planner, photographer/ cinematographer, live cast of your events on plasma screens and projectors, studio pictures, souvenir shots as well as television production, call Adeoye Adeshina on 08037145182 or write us on blackandproudmediaproductions@gmail.com. also visit. http://hottestinformations.blogspot.com/
One Love!
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We guarantee to provide the following services:
• Excellent Event Planning
• Works hard to ensure a stress free day for you
• Makes you comfortable by treating you as a friend not a client
• Negotiate the best options and lets you decide
• Converts your vision and resources into perfectly planned Occasions.
We also organize media coverage for your events in any media house, both print and electronic of your choice as our media department boasts of some of the best hands in media consultancy and public relations in Nigeria.
Thank you for a favourble consideration and patronage while we eagerly wait to receive an invitation from you soon.
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WAYS TO LOOK YOUNGER FOR LESS
Drinking Plenty of water: adequate fluid in take(6 to 8 glasses of water per day) is essential for hydrating skin, flushing out toxins and for anti-aging prevention.
Quit Smoking: I know it is not easy but there are numerous healthy life saving reasons to quit. Smoking speeds up facial wrinkling due to Oxygen depletion and gradual breakdown of skin tissue.
Relax: Emotional stress causes the release of immune compounds called histamines, which can cause inflammation and disrupt the matrix of skin cells.
Clean up: Use a gentle scrub twice a week to slough off dead skin cells and clear away oil, which an clog pores and lead to breakouts and blackheads. But don’t overdo it. More than twice weekly and you could strip the skin of natural oils causing early wrinkles and triggering even oilier skin.
Quit Smoking: I know it is not easy but there are numerous healthy life saving reasons to quit. Smoking speeds up facial wrinkling due to Oxygen depletion and gradual breakdown of skin tissue.
Relax: Emotional stress causes the release of immune compounds called histamines, which can cause inflammation and disrupt the matrix of skin cells.
Clean up: Use a gentle scrub twice a week to slough off dead skin cells and clear away oil, which an clog pores and lead to breakouts and blackheads. But don’t overdo it. More than twice weekly and you could strip the skin of natural oils causing early wrinkles and triggering even oilier skin.
HOW TO BRAND YOURSELF
Branding as a concept or field of human endeavor is no longer new. It has grown so much that almost everywhere you go today, you find someone or company talking about branding. Adverting agencies and organizations across the globe are in fact making huge sums of money from helping to propagate different other companies as worthy brands within their fields of operation.
Branding as we know it today as in fact taking an all new dimension as it is no longer what only companies and big organizations do, it has become what individuals also do and I dare say that it is what every single person should/must do. You must BRAND yourself!
While indeed I am talking about branding yourself in the sense that it is generally known, that is, creating a particular image in the minds of people and clients about yourself that makes them see you in a certain light, I am at the same time talking about Branding yourself in another light.
So, how do I mean when I say BRAND yourself? To explain my concept of Branding yourself, the word “BRAND” will be used as an acronym with each letter having a meaning and life of its own.
B-Boldness
In the world of today, there is nothing you can do if you are not bold-courageous; darling; fearless; lion-hearted, what else? Fill in the gap. The lion is described as the king of the jungle because of its boldness. It does not withdraw from any other animal in the concept that prevails is “survival of the fittest.” In this world, the timid and cowardly will always play second fiddle to the bold.
R- Responsiveness
The in-ability for responsiveness is what is responsible for pain many people experience. Responsiveness is your ability to positively respond with emotion to people and events. The truth is that life will throw many things at you that are negative and uncalled for. Things will happen to you that will want to shake you and sweep you off your feet. And the fact of the matter is that these things are part of life.
The way you respond to these things issues of life when they happen shows whether you are being responsive or reactive. Your disposition at such times of life challenges matters a lot.
For example, when you take a patient to the hospital, you say he is responding to treatment when the medication is having positive effect on him and you say he is reacting when the effect of the medication is negative. The question I have for you is, are you responding to life or you are reacting?
A-Ability
If you like call it talent; gift; acquired skill e.t.c the fact remains that every single person, including you has ability that you must seek to discover. Someone rightly said that, “responsibility is response to ability.” If your ability is not readily noticeable, then you’ve got to dig deep for it. But for sure, it is there.
Your ability is key to unraveling the puzzle in the process of BRAND-ing yourself. You cannot afford to ignore it, because it determines your identity; it puts you in a class of your own. It turns you from a nonentity (one who is faceless) to a celebrity.
For a kanu Nwankwo, it is the ability to play football. For Nice, it is the ability to sing and for me (Adeoye Adeshina), it is the ability to write and speak. What is you own ability? Remember that if you ignore your ability, you will remain a liability.
N- Nice
One of the things that help to attract friends is a friendly attitude. “he that must have friends must himself be friendly”
In a world where public relations speak volume you cannot afford not be a nice person. Nice means,”Socially or conventionally correct; refined or virtuous.” And it also means, “Exhibiting courtesy and politeness.” You must be the person that is easy to get along with, not the one that is always picking up quarrel over every little thing, throwing tantrums at the slightest of provocation. If you are someone like this, you will soon end up being your own client.
You must be genuinely interested in people and have their sincere interest at heart. To be nice therefore, you must be N-Noble, I-Interested in people, C-Caring and E-Engaging.
D-Dutiful
There is no level of branding you do that will amount to anything if you are not someone who is busy doing the things you are supposed to be doing, especially in the area of your ability.
There are so many people who are busy, but their busyness does not translate into business. Business here for me, is about doing the things that speak and project your own brand; using your ability to work out your destiny.
Wake up every morning and give what it requires to get the result that you desire.
Don’t be the kind of person that is laid back and someone or something has to push before you do what you have to do; push yourself. Even Jesus said, “I have to be about my father’s business while it is day, for the night comes when no man can work.”
Thanks you for reading; I am waiting to see the manifestation and celebration of your BRAND.
Branding as we know it today as in fact taking an all new dimension as it is no longer what only companies and big organizations do, it has become what individuals also do and I dare say that it is what every single person should/must do. You must BRAND yourself!
While indeed I am talking about branding yourself in the sense that it is generally known, that is, creating a particular image in the minds of people and clients about yourself that makes them see you in a certain light, I am at the same time talking about Branding yourself in another light.
So, how do I mean when I say BRAND yourself? To explain my concept of Branding yourself, the word “BRAND” will be used as an acronym with each letter having a meaning and life of its own.
B-Boldness
In the world of today, there is nothing you can do if you are not bold-courageous; darling; fearless; lion-hearted, what else? Fill in the gap. The lion is described as the king of the jungle because of its boldness. It does not withdraw from any other animal in the concept that prevails is “survival of the fittest.” In this world, the timid and cowardly will always play second fiddle to the bold.
R- Responsiveness
The in-ability for responsiveness is what is responsible for pain many people experience. Responsiveness is your ability to positively respond with emotion to people and events. The truth is that life will throw many things at you that are negative and uncalled for. Things will happen to you that will want to shake you and sweep you off your feet. And the fact of the matter is that these things are part of life.
The way you respond to these things issues of life when they happen shows whether you are being responsive or reactive. Your disposition at such times of life challenges matters a lot.
For example, when you take a patient to the hospital, you say he is responding to treatment when the medication is having positive effect on him and you say he is reacting when the effect of the medication is negative. The question I have for you is, are you responding to life or you are reacting?
A-Ability
If you like call it talent; gift; acquired skill e.t.c the fact remains that every single person, including you has ability that you must seek to discover. Someone rightly said that, “responsibility is response to ability.” If your ability is not readily noticeable, then you’ve got to dig deep for it. But for sure, it is there.
Your ability is key to unraveling the puzzle in the process of BRAND-ing yourself. You cannot afford to ignore it, because it determines your identity; it puts you in a class of your own. It turns you from a nonentity (one who is faceless) to a celebrity.
For a kanu Nwankwo, it is the ability to play football. For Nice, it is the ability to sing and for me (Adeoye Adeshina), it is the ability to write and speak. What is you own ability? Remember that if you ignore your ability, you will remain a liability.
N- Nice
One of the things that help to attract friends is a friendly attitude. “he that must have friends must himself be friendly”
In a world where public relations speak volume you cannot afford not be a nice person. Nice means,”Socially or conventionally correct; refined or virtuous.” And it also means, “Exhibiting courtesy and politeness.” You must be the person that is easy to get along with, not the one that is always picking up quarrel over every little thing, throwing tantrums at the slightest of provocation. If you are someone like this, you will soon end up being your own client.
You must be genuinely interested in people and have their sincere interest at heart. To be nice therefore, you must be N-Noble, I-Interested in people, C-Caring and E-Engaging.
D-Dutiful
There is no level of branding you do that will amount to anything if you are not someone who is busy doing the things you are supposed to be doing, especially in the area of your ability.
There are so many people who are busy, but their busyness does not translate into business. Business here for me, is about doing the things that speak and project your own brand; using your ability to work out your destiny.
Wake up every morning and give what it requires to get the result that you desire.
Don’t be the kind of person that is laid back and someone or something has to push before you do what you have to do; push yourself. Even Jesus said, “I have to be about my father’s business while it is day, for the night comes when no man can work.”
Thanks you for reading; I am waiting to see the manifestation and celebration of your BRAND.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Perfect man and woman
The perfect man is the one who is loving, romantic, intelligent, soft minded, respectful and is willing to communicate with you at all the times, willing to work through ANY & EVERYTHING with you he does not let anybody influence him. He is committed to his lady and does not hide any secrets. He does not cheat and does not have a need to look at other women when he knows he has the woman he wanted. I wonder if this kind of man exists!
My perfect woman is never taking things for granted. She is passionate, caring and dedicating wholeheartedly. She never disappoints me with what she promises. She loves me as a whole and enjoys every moment with me. She is my joy and vice versa.....
My perfect woman is never taking things for granted. She is passionate, caring and dedicating wholeheartedly. She never disappoints me with what she promises. She loves me as a whole and enjoys every moment with me. She is my joy and vice versa.....
FAITH DEFINED
Faith is the great connecting unit between the objective and subjective states. Faith is the bedrock upon which all other foundation stones in every great character rest. Thus the person who has an invincible faith in his or her own mission, an unconquerable faith in self and in God, has power in the world. We believe in people with great faith, whether they agree with us or not, because faith represents force, stability, character. We believe in people in proportion to their immovableness from principle, the fixity of their faith in mission.
Our life is grand or ordinary, large or small, in proportion to the insight and strength of our faith. Faith is the great leader in every achievement. Faith always takes the first step forward. It is a soul sense, a spiritual foresight, which pierce far beyond the physical eye’s vision, a courier which leads the way, opens the closed door, sees beyond the obstacles, and points to the faith which the less spiritual faculties could not see.
Many people do not trust their faith, because they do not know what it is. They confuse it with fancy or imagination, but it is spiritual faculty which does not guess or think or doubt, but which views, for it sees the way out which the other faculties cannot see.
Faith is a great elevator of character, and has a wonderful influence on ideas. It lifts us to the height and gives us glimpse of the Promised Land. It is the light of truth and wisdom.
Our life is grand or ordinary, large or small, in proportion to the insight and strength of our faith. Faith is the great leader in every achievement. Faith always takes the first step forward. It is a soul sense, a spiritual foresight, which pierce far beyond the physical eye’s vision, a courier which leads the way, opens the closed door, sees beyond the obstacles, and points to the faith which the less spiritual faculties could not see.
Many people do not trust their faith, because they do not know what it is. They confuse it with fancy or imagination, but it is spiritual faculty which does not guess or think or doubt, but which views, for it sees the way out which the other faculties cannot see.
Faith is a great elevator of character, and has a wonderful influence on ideas. It lifts us to the height and gives us glimpse of the Promised Land. It is the light of truth and wisdom.
Tips for Business Creativity and Innovation
1. Create a powerful business vision, mission and value
2. Build creative team-playing committed leaders
3. Focus on what you want to achieve not what to avoid.
4. Develop tolerance for risk, error and setbacks and treat risk as adventure towards creating success.
5. Constantly feed your curiosity.
6. Use the power of intuitive thinking in all business operations
7. Avoid pushing for consensus too early.
8. Train employees to adopt the attitude of constructive discontent that is, disallow complacency.
9. Let employees know that mistakes are allowed in creative and Innovative endeavors.
10. Do not limit the number of ways people can succeed as long as it is ethical.
11. Reinforce the principle of small-steps in a creative and innovative adventure.
12. Share power and increase autonomy within reasonable boundaries.
13. Be open to new ideas from unexpected sources
14. Commend everybody connected with the business always as this would enhance peak performance.
15. Appoint employees to committees.
16. Appreciate the contribution of employees to the business. Make them stakeholders.
In conclusion therefore, without creativity and innovation, business is limited and not able to benefit from the immense resources embedded in personnel and may be locked in old habit, structures, and concepts.
2. Build creative team-playing committed leaders
3. Focus on what you want to achieve not what to avoid.
4. Develop tolerance for risk, error and setbacks and treat risk as adventure towards creating success.
5. Constantly feed your curiosity.
6. Use the power of intuitive thinking in all business operations
7. Avoid pushing for consensus too early.
8. Train employees to adopt the attitude of constructive discontent that is, disallow complacency.
9. Let employees know that mistakes are allowed in creative and Innovative endeavors.
10. Do not limit the number of ways people can succeed as long as it is ethical.
11. Reinforce the principle of small-steps in a creative and innovative adventure.
12. Share power and increase autonomy within reasonable boundaries.
13. Be open to new ideas from unexpected sources
14. Commend everybody connected with the business always as this would enhance peak performance.
15. Appoint employees to committees.
16. Appreciate the contribution of employees to the business. Make them stakeholders.
In conclusion therefore, without creativity and innovation, business is limited and not able to benefit from the immense resources embedded in personnel and may be locked in old habit, structures, and concepts.
Creativity and Innovation in Business
I would start by saying that God is the creativity lecturer because he is the initiator of creativity and innovation. Creativity is the process of generating new ideas or new designs notable alternatives, new outcomes and new opportunities that can be transformed into profitable products and services. Innovation is the introduction of new and improved way of doing things I business.
The link between creativity and Innovation in Business
Creativity implies bringing novel idea in business while innovation is the application of the novel idea I n the same business. Innovation may not be new in its entirety but may be an extra-touch brought into an existing frame-work that makes all the difference in your business. Some innovations are emergent which mostly results from mistakes while others are planned which requires effective strategies and effective implementation (Nigerian journal of applied psychology 2002). Creativity is most evident in the early stages of innovation, when those in terms are required to offer ideas in response to a perceived need for innovation. Innovation describes the transformation of creative ideas into profiting marketable product.
Designing Sustainable Business Creativity and Innovation
No matter the size of your business, innovation and creativity are critical to your business success. They help you to beat the competition, and stay ahead of changes in market. You have to creatively initiate new designs, alternative strategies, and provocations that put new products and services into the market, while eliminating all emotional vices such as frustration, anxiety, bulling, and others which make the workplace stressful to employees. In other words, create a workplace culture that is passionately motivating for the employee.
The link between creativity and Innovation in Business
Creativity implies bringing novel idea in business while innovation is the application of the novel idea I n the same business. Innovation may not be new in its entirety but may be an extra-touch brought into an existing frame-work that makes all the difference in your business. Some innovations are emergent which mostly results from mistakes while others are planned which requires effective strategies and effective implementation (Nigerian journal of applied psychology 2002). Creativity is most evident in the early stages of innovation, when those in terms are required to offer ideas in response to a perceived need for innovation. Innovation describes the transformation of creative ideas into profiting marketable product.
Designing Sustainable Business Creativity and Innovation
No matter the size of your business, innovation and creativity are critical to your business success. They help you to beat the competition, and stay ahead of changes in market. You have to creatively initiate new designs, alternative strategies, and provocations that put new products and services into the market, while eliminating all emotional vices such as frustration, anxiety, bulling, and others which make the workplace stressful to employees. In other words, create a workplace culture that is passionately motivating for the employee.
5 TIPS FOR JOB HUNTING DURING A RECESSION
Job hunting can be a challenging process at times, Searching for a job during a recession may prove to be even more demanding as lay offs continue and the economy deteriorates. Here are 5 tips on how to find a job during these difficult times.
1. STAY POSITIVE: A positive attitude can go a long way, job hunting can be hard on the self-esteem but attitude is key. If something doesn’t go the way you planned you need to reassess the situation and take our of it what is beneficial to you. Staying optimistic during difficult times is important and hiring managers can sense in an interview what your attitude is. Your general attitude is an indication of how you might react on job to challenging situations. It may also be helpful to implement an exercise plan into your daily routine; this helps you feel better and maintain positive energy throughout your search.
2. NETWORK, NETWORK: Never underestimate the power of your connections, no matter how big or small. Networking is a very effective way to find a new job. It is well known that a large number of jobs are not advertised, and that those positions are filled through word of mouth and referrals. You can develop a list of contacts by starting with your friends and family and if you continue to invest time and energy into it, you can build your network to an even broader range of contacts. You can tap into hidden job market by leveraging your network to give you job leads or introduce you to people who know of available opportunities.
3. BE FLEXIBLE: Be flexible to freelance and temporary work as it could expose you to new skills and experiences. It could also lead to a full-time positive. At the very least you will be meeting new people and bring in additional income while you are searching for a permanent gig. You may also consider volunteering or taking a job that is stepping stone to gain experience. Make sure that the experience lends to your idea job.
4. DO YOUR HOMEWORK: In times where there are more workers and less jobs to fill, employers are more selective than ever. Create a prioritized list of your target jobs and positions that are realistic-who you want to work for. What position you want the most? It helps to have a plan to follow to keep you focused and on tract. Research the companies you’re interested in and evaluate whether or not they are set for growth. You want to look for companies that seem stable and secure. Once you target your companies – pursue them, even if they don’t have any current openings. You never know what may come out of it. If you establish contacts and market yourself correctly, you can get your foot in the door.
5. BE PERSISTENT: persistence, preparation and patience are essential in the job hunting process. The ability to keep yourself motivated through the process is important. If you are creative and stick to your plan you will land a job.
1. STAY POSITIVE: A positive attitude can go a long way, job hunting can be hard on the self-esteem but attitude is key. If something doesn’t go the way you planned you need to reassess the situation and take our of it what is beneficial to you. Staying optimistic during difficult times is important and hiring managers can sense in an interview what your attitude is. Your general attitude is an indication of how you might react on job to challenging situations. It may also be helpful to implement an exercise plan into your daily routine; this helps you feel better and maintain positive energy throughout your search.
2. NETWORK, NETWORK: Never underestimate the power of your connections, no matter how big or small. Networking is a very effective way to find a new job. It is well known that a large number of jobs are not advertised, and that those positions are filled through word of mouth and referrals. You can develop a list of contacts by starting with your friends and family and if you continue to invest time and energy into it, you can build your network to an even broader range of contacts. You can tap into hidden job market by leveraging your network to give you job leads or introduce you to people who know of available opportunities.
3. BE FLEXIBLE: Be flexible to freelance and temporary work as it could expose you to new skills and experiences. It could also lead to a full-time positive. At the very least you will be meeting new people and bring in additional income while you are searching for a permanent gig. You may also consider volunteering or taking a job that is stepping stone to gain experience. Make sure that the experience lends to your idea job.
4. DO YOUR HOMEWORK: In times where there are more workers and less jobs to fill, employers are more selective than ever. Create a prioritized list of your target jobs and positions that are realistic-who you want to work for. What position you want the most? It helps to have a plan to follow to keep you focused and on tract. Research the companies you’re interested in and evaluate whether or not they are set for growth. You want to look for companies that seem stable and secure. Once you target your companies – pursue them, even if they don’t have any current openings. You never know what may come out of it. If you establish contacts and market yourself correctly, you can get your foot in the door.
5. BE PERSISTENT: persistence, preparation and patience are essential in the job hunting process. The ability to keep yourself motivated through the process is important. If you are creative and stick to your plan you will land a job.
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Monday, January 25, 2010
Some top Habits for you to start improving your Life!
Time and again I have seen many people who ask me certain question, wanting to change certain habits and develop good habits. I don’t generally call anything to be a good or bad habit. I prefer calling them Useful or Not useful habits. Because the moment you call them good or bad, you begin to start justifying. Once you question your integrity about what is useful or not useful you tend to me more objective and make the right decisions. Few habits which I feel that you must have to develop (if you have not done so yet) that will for sure improve the quality of your life and take your like to the next level are as follows.
1. Be an Early Bird: I really mean it. The energy that surrounds you early in the morning is so refreshing that it gives you the momentum to go higher. I know there are a few of who say, “Hey listen I work late in the night and how do you expect me to wake up early in the morning”. If possible do change your schedule of working, else at least wake up at least 3 to 4 times in a week to start with. There is a specific reason why the Sun always rises in the east at a specific time in a day. We don’t need to understand the reason but just use it with the blind faith and belief that there is a purpose and will do a lot of good for us.
2. Move your Body and Exercise: Motion means emotion. Any super achiever is so because of the mental state they are in and the way you use and drive the body physiology determines the mental state you are in. if you feel lousy you can never step out to take action and action means results. Your body needs to be more tuned to your work, your breathing and your beat must be in harmony with the thoughts and action and the way to do so is by exercising. Take a brisk walk for 20 minutes or practice, play a game of tennis or volleyball.
3. Grow your Brain with Mental Activities: Read a book per week. Do your best to finish it or at read 20 pages every day. Once you do it for 3 days increase to 40 pages per day.
4. Don’t Worry Be Happy: – The choice of being happy is always with you. There is no reason for you to celebrate and be happy. As you wake up in the morning just decide to be happy. Smile every day. For the first 4 hrs of the day whomever you meet, you must have to smile at them first even before you start work with them. A smile move a million cells, a thousand nerves and few hundred muscles and as said before motion creates emotion and would make you feel energetic and perform better.
5. Say thanks with a Sense of Gratitude: You must be thankful for many things that happen in your life. First thank The Almighty God for His plans for your life. Thank yourself for what you are. As you do so your self esteem too increases. Thank the people around you for making a difference in your life. Your family, colleagues, friends and many more. Thank many unknown people who are making your life better. You might not have seen them but the person plants the tree which bears fruits makes a difference in your life. Do this every day in the morning and before bed. You would push yourself to achieve more.
6. Goals and Small tasks for the week: Once you have the bigger goals, you must have to chunk them down to smaller tasks. This will make you achieve your targets faster and makes it achievable. Small tasks are always easy to achieve.
7. Action towards goals and strategies: Failure is not when you do not get the results you want. Failure is when you do not take action. Once you set your goal, if you do not take any action on that I don’t think you would ever achieve it. Kill Procrastination this moment . Successful people are so not because they were lucky. Have that momentum in you so that you can move faster to achieve what you want.
To be continues......
1. Be an Early Bird: I really mean it. The energy that surrounds you early in the morning is so refreshing that it gives you the momentum to go higher. I know there are a few of who say, “Hey listen I work late in the night and how do you expect me to wake up early in the morning”. If possible do change your schedule of working, else at least wake up at least 3 to 4 times in a week to start with. There is a specific reason why the Sun always rises in the east at a specific time in a day. We don’t need to understand the reason but just use it with the blind faith and belief that there is a purpose and will do a lot of good for us.
2. Move your Body and Exercise: Motion means emotion. Any super achiever is so because of the mental state they are in and the way you use and drive the body physiology determines the mental state you are in. if you feel lousy you can never step out to take action and action means results. Your body needs to be more tuned to your work, your breathing and your beat must be in harmony with the thoughts and action and the way to do so is by exercising. Take a brisk walk for 20 minutes or practice, play a game of tennis or volleyball.
3. Grow your Brain with Mental Activities: Read a book per week. Do your best to finish it or at read 20 pages every day. Once you do it for 3 days increase to 40 pages per day.
4. Don’t Worry Be Happy: – The choice of being happy is always with you. There is no reason for you to celebrate and be happy. As you wake up in the morning just decide to be happy. Smile every day. For the first 4 hrs of the day whomever you meet, you must have to smile at them first even before you start work with them. A smile move a million cells, a thousand nerves and few hundred muscles and as said before motion creates emotion and would make you feel energetic and perform better.
5. Say thanks with a Sense of Gratitude: You must be thankful for many things that happen in your life. First thank The Almighty God for His plans for your life. Thank yourself for what you are. As you do so your self esteem too increases. Thank the people around you for making a difference in your life. Your family, colleagues, friends and many more. Thank many unknown people who are making your life better. You might not have seen them but the person plants the tree which bears fruits makes a difference in your life. Do this every day in the morning and before bed. You would push yourself to achieve more.
6. Goals and Small tasks for the week: Once you have the bigger goals, you must have to chunk them down to smaller tasks. This will make you achieve your targets faster and makes it achievable. Small tasks are always easy to achieve.
7. Action towards goals and strategies: Failure is not when you do not get the results you want. Failure is when you do not take action. Once you set your goal, if you do not take any action on that I don’t think you would ever achieve it. Kill Procrastination this moment . Successful people are so not because they were lucky. Have that momentum in you so that you can move faster to achieve what you want.
To be continues......
Dream!!!
Dream: somebody once said that the future belongs to those who believe in the quality of their dreams. Dreams are the starting point. You can attain greater heights, but it starts with a dream. They are divine thoughts that call for action embedded in your heart. It is of the inside. You move from inside out. Are you ready to follow your dream or you want it to drop dead? If you want to keep living, you need to start living for something. Any project you see working today was somebody’s dream yesterday.
HOW TO COMPLIMENT A GIRL
Have u ever experienced awkward silence when u couldn't think of anything to say? Then you notice something on the girl you're talking to which you love. You want to say something about it but don't exactly know how. Here is how to do that without offending her or being too forward.
Think before you speak: Don't just open your mouth and blurt out d first thing you think of because it may come out in d wrong way or she may hear it the wrong way. Take a second 2make sure its something she would like to hear.
Decide what you want to: You can compliment, and you can flirt. Be sure you know what u want. Girls can easily mistake a simple compliment as a flirtatious signal, so make yourself clear -a compliment is made and then u move on. Flirting is accompanied by a special smile, lingering eye contact, or an unnecessary touch.
Keep to the point: If the compliment is about something material, like a bracelet or a shirt, it's totally easy. If it's something like d way she tot about a topic in class or something, be careful, because u don't want 2 sound like too much of a know-it-all. Keep your comment brief and don't gush, especially if you don't know her well.
Speak when it’s timely: Don't wait till the moment has passed. Tell her how much you like
whatever it is before someone else nearby does. You feel awkward (and can look/sound like a
joiner) when someone else compliments, and you're chiming in after them with, "yeah... I like it, too" or - even worse -you remain silent.
Notice her Appearance (not her looks): When she's wearing something cute or looks nice, say something low-key. "Whoa, you look totally great today!" is really awkward, unless you're dating the girl. There are a lot of things that indicate a girl looks good that have nothing to do with her features, or even her clothing. For example, if her hair is normally wavy, but it's straight today, and it looks especially lustrous, if you say something like, "hey, did you straighten your hair or something? That's a great look for you", it will go over better.
Stop, look, and Listen: Once you've remarked on the object, look at her face when she's
answering you. Don't stare at the thing you complimented. You'll look obsessed. Listen to what she's telling you so you can respond. You can make some sort of acknowledging remarks, such as, "Mm hmm." If she got an amazing deal, for example, it was found at a flea market for 75 cents, or something like that, you are allowed to gush a little bit ("No way!").
Gauge her response. If she seems pretty friendly, you may have just made a new friend. If, after step one or two she says something very short or curt, such as, "At the swap meet." and leaves it there, she's probably not interested in conversing, at least about that, at that moment. (Tips) Smile, and don't be offended if she doesn't compliment you back. Everyone wants to hear something like, "You look great today, Skye!" Some girls react solely on their emotions. So, even when they can't see through your gesture as genuinely nice and be happy that you
took the time to open your mouth to spit some horrible game at them, it's not your fault that
they can't respond appropriately to a nice person and simply disregard it as "creepy".
Think before you speak: Don't just open your mouth and blurt out d first thing you think of because it may come out in d wrong way or she may hear it the wrong way. Take a second 2make sure its something she would like to hear.
Decide what you want to: You can compliment, and you can flirt. Be sure you know what u want. Girls can easily mistake a simple compliment as a flirtatious signal, so make yourself clear -a compliment is made and then u move on. Flirting is accompanied by a special smile, lingering eye contact, or an unnecessary touch.
Keep to the point: If the compliment is about something material, like a bracelet or a shirt, it's totally easy. If it's something like d way she tot about a topic in class or something, be careful, because u don't want 2 sound like too much of a know-it-all. Keep your comment brief and don't gush, especially if you don't know her well.
Speak when it’s timely: Don't wait till the moment has passed. Tell her how much you like
whatever it is before someone else nearby does. You feel awkward (and can look/sound like a
joiner) when someone else compliments, and you're chiming in after them with, "yeah... I like it, too" or - even worse -you remain silent.
Notice her Appearance (not her looks): When she's wearing something cute or looks nice, say something low-key. "Whoa, you look totally great today!" is really awkward, unless you're dating the girl. There are a lot of things that indicate a girl looks good that have nothing to do with her features, or even her clothing. For example, if her hair is normally wavy, but it's straight today, and it looks especially lustrous, if you say something like, "hey, did you straighten your hair or something? That's a great look for you", it will go over better.
Stop, look, and Listen: Once you've remarked on the object, look at her face when she's
answering you. Don't stare at the thing you complimented. You'll look obsessed. Listen to what she's telling you so you can respond. You can make some sort of acknowledging remarks, such as, "Mm hmm." If she got an amazing deal, for example, it was found at a flea market for 75 cents, or something like that, you are allowed to gush a little bit ("No way!").
Gauge her response. If she seems pretty friendly, you may have just made a new friend. If, after step one or two she says something very short or curt, such as, "At the swap meet." and leaves it there, she's probably not interested in conversing, at least about that, at that moment. (Tips) Smile, and don't be offended if she doesn't compliment you back. Everyone wants to hear something like, "You look great today, Skye!" Some girls react solely on their emotions. So, even when they can't see through your gesture as genuinely nice and be happy that you
took the time to open your mouth to spit some horrible game at them, it's not your fault that
they can't respond appropriately to a nice person and simply disregard it as "creepy".
HOW TO SEND FREE TEXT MESSAGES ON THE INTERNET
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Free sms can be sent on the internet, but many of these web sites have the maximum number of sms you can send per day. Presently, the following web sites give free sms on the internet
www.wadja.com,
www.txtmail.com,
www.aratext.com,
www.smsdam.com
Log to the sites, get registered and look to get free sms. So check the maximum for each web site per day
The Five Habits of Success
Develop and reinforce these five habits of success. When you do, you will not have to make new decisions every morning. You instinctively know what you are going to do and how you are going to do it!
The habit of positive thinking! - Successful people have simply formed the habit of doing what failures do not like to do and will not do: They think positively! They have the habit of expecting to win, the habit of planning to win, the habit of working to win... and they win!
The habit of prospecting! - Develop this habit, and you will have prospects everywhere and you will have an endless supply of Class A leads.
The habit of calling on people! - This makes selling fun and exciting—and fruitful!
The habit of selling! - Use a system or sales presentation. Follow it to a “T”! It will make you a skilled communicator, a person who speaks with emotion and conviction.
The habit of working! - Work is a privilege! Work is a joy! It is one of the most exciting things you can do. When you get results, it pumps your adrenalin, gives you more energy and multiplies more results!
The habit of positive thinking! - Successful people have simply formed the habit of doing what failures do not like to do and will not do: They think positively! They have the habit of expecting to win, the habit of planning to win, the habit of working to win... and they win!
The habit of prospecting! - Develop this habit, and you will have prospects everywhere and you will have an endless supply of Class A leads.
The habit of calling on people! - This makes selling fun and exciting—and fruitful!
The habit of selling! - Use a system or sales presentation. Follow it to a “T”! It will make you a skilled communicator, a person who speaks with emotion and conviction.
The habit of working! - Work is a privilege! Work is a joy! It is one of the most exciting things you can do. When you get results, it pumps your adrenalin, gives you more energy and multiplies more results!
THE MIGHTY MAN AND HIS FAITH
Faith is very important in our lives. It helps us to work with God and deal with the affairs of life. It is known that without faith we cannot please God and with faith, even as small as a mustard seed, we can move mountains.
What makes a mighty man is majorly his faith. The loss of faith has reduced many a mighty man. This loss of faith usually results from trials and persistent adverse situations. The loss of people or things we cherish most can easily lead to a loss of faith, faith in our God is tested and our souls wallow away in self pity, remorse and bitterness. Depression so heavy it can be felt by both people and things around us. This situation results in gradual loss of our faith and the man that use to speak things into happening no longer speaks as doubt creeps in and ravages his faith. Fear of negative results and the stack reality of his physical situation begin to torment his soul. He gradually begins to seek companionship with people of same situation (as birds of same feathers flock together) and finally slips into the obscure. If even he goes to church, he is just a bench warmer who knows it all and can only but criticize those who are on the pulpit from the choir to the ministers (he easily forgets that though he can do it better than them, he is not doing anything while those he criticizes are working anyway). The idle man’s mind has become the devil’s workshop! Various kind of sin begins to become the order of the day, first privately (in secret) and sooner/later publicly in the open). They may still attend church services, user, sing in the choir, shout halleluiah now and then, they may even have one title of the other – deacons, evangelists, Sunday school teachers, pastors, e.t.c but within, they are just filthy tombs with a good painting on the outside. They easily become tools in the hand of the devil and most time wondering how they have so fallen from grace. Oh how are the mighty fallen:
I would like to consider two lives in this respect.
King Saul was a shy boy, raised up by God’s anointing and became a mighty king. Under pressure and because of lack of faith, fear took over (underlying this was the sin of greed, pride and self seeking) and he fell from grace. He remained thus adding to his errors everyday till death. This mighty man never woke up. Job was a mighty man and when afflictions came, he shouted, ranted and even quarreled with friends, wife and everything was lost but hear his testimony – though HE slay one, yet will I trust HIM, faith held on and he was restored even to double of what he lost. He refused to insult God whether directly or indirectly by sinning or living in negligence to God’s work and word. He stood firm. As I speak to every mighty man, wake up; let your faith hold you. Dust your Bible, go to the book of Hebrews and energies your faith. Pray until you can feed your faith speaking to you saying, ‘I am awake’
I dare to ask you even now do might man ‘where art though’? Where are those shouts of prayers we use to hear coming from your room? Where are the prophesies you use to prophesy? Where are the living words that use to come from your mouth?
‘o mighty man, where are thou?
Wake up from the miry clay, take your stand again amongst the men of God. This alarm is sound for you to get up. What hold you down is not the situations around you but your mindset- loss of faith. So get up and pray to God to help your faith. So get up and pray to God to help your faith. Faith comes by hearing the word of God. Speak to DADDY again. I mean DADDY just as you use to call HIM!!!
Sin is a killer, the soul that sins shall die. The wages of sin is death. Sin de-bases disrobes you. It lifts the covering of the glory of God off you. No wonder Adam found himself naked and had thought to hide from GOD! The direct result of sin! The guilt drives us away from God’s presence! But the truth is that we should actually run to God at such times so as to be restored!
I encourage you today!
What makes a mighty man is majorly his faith. The loss of faith has reduced many a mighty man. This loss of faith usually results from trials and persistent adverse situations. The loss of people or things we cherish most can easily lead to a loss of faith, faith in our God is tested and our souls wallow away in self pity, remorse and bitterness. Depression so heavy it can be felt by both people and things around us. This situation results in gradual loss of our faith and the man that use to speak things into happening no longer speaks as doubt creeps in and ravages his faith. Fear of negative results and the stack reality of his physical situation begin to torment his soul. He gradually begins to seek companionship with people of same situation (as birds of same feathers flock together) and finally slips into the obscure. If even he goes to church, he is just a bench warmer who knows it all and can only but criticize those who are on the pulpit from the choir to the ministers (he easily forgets that though he can do it better than them, he is not doing anything while those he criticizes are working anyway). The idle man’s mind has become the devil’s workshop! Various kind of sin begins to become the order of the day, first privately (in secret) and sooner/later publicly in the open). They may still attend church services, user, sing in the choir, shout halleluiah now and then, they may even have one title of the other – deacons, evangelists, Sunday school teachers, pastors, e.t.c but within, they are just filthy tombs with a good painting on the outside. They easily become tools in the hand of the devil and most time wondering how they have so fallen from grace. Oh how are the mighty fallen:
I would like to consider two lives in this respect.
King Saul was a shy boy, raised up by God’s anointing and became a mighty king. Under pressure and because of lack of faith, fear took over (underlying this was the sin of greed, pride and self seeking) and he fell from grace. He remained thus adding to his errors everyday till death. This mighty man never woke up. Job was a mighty man and when afflictions came, he shouted, ranted and even quarreled with friends, wife and everything was lost but hear his testimony – though HE slay one, yet will I trust HIM, faith held on and he was restored even to double of what he lost. He refused to insult God whether directly or indirectly by sinning or living in negligence to God’s work and word. He stood firm. As I speak to every mighty man, wake up; let your faith hold you. Dust your Bible, go to the book of Hebrews and energies your faith. Pray until you can feed your faith speaking to you saying, ‘I am awake’
I dare to ask you even now do might man ‘where art though’? Where are those shouts of prayers we use to hear coming from your room? Where are the prophesies you use to prophesy? Where are the living words that use to come from your mouth?
‘o mighty man, where are thou?
Wake up from the miry clay, take your stand again amongst the men of God. This alarm is sound for you to get up. What hold you down is not the situations around you but your mindset- loss of faith. So get up and pray to God to help your faith. So get up and pray to God to help your faith. Faith comes by hearing the word of God. Speak to DADDY again. I mean DADDY just as you use to call HIM!!!
Sin is a killer, the soul that sins shall die. The wages of sin is death. Sin de-bases disrobes you. It lifts the covering of the glory of God off you. No wonder Adam found himself naked and had thought to hide from GOD! The direct result of sin! The guilt drives us away from God’s presence! But the truth is that we should actually run to God at such times so as to be restored!
I encourage you today!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Attitude!!
Attitude!
Is your attitude right? You are today what you thought about yesterday, you will be tomorrow what you think about today. Attitude could be said to be the way we think or feel about somebody or something. Attitude is either positive or negative. “In the game of life you can be up one moment and down the next, reason for this is the attitude we choose consciously or unconsciously” your attitude will determine you outlook on life and how you view the world-happy or sad, positive a situation to be disastrous, while another person may see it as an opportunity for trying out something new. The inner attitude you have about yourself will determine your level of success far more than the skills and training you have received. Your thoughts become your beliefs, and your thoughts determines where “good” (positive) or “bad”(negative) messages are sent from the brain to the rest of the body. There is a complex relationship between the mind and the body. The way you perceive yourself can give rise to feeling of joy, despair, anger, rage that can cause heart disease, asthma, ulcers etc.
We need to understand how our thoughts arise and are influenced; they come into the brain from what we hear, what we see, what we read and what we say to ourselves. Optimism and pessimism are learned attitudinal behaviors and they can be relearned. We need to constantly monitor our attitude to make our own corrections. Therefore examine yourself: what is your outlook on life.
Summary
• Attitude are more important than facts
• How you take it is more important than what happens to you
• Attitude acts as a selective filter affecting perception. We choose to see the best or worst in any situation.
Is your attitude right? You are today what you thought about yesterday, you will be tomorrow what you think about today. Attitude could be said to be the way we think or feel about somebody or something. Attitude is either positive or negative. “In the game of life you can be up one moment and down the next, reason for this is the attitude we choose consciously or unconsciously” your attitude will determine you outlook on life and how you view the world-happy or sad, positive a situation to be disastrous, while another person may see it as an opportunity for trying out something new. The inner attitude you have about yourself will determine your level of success far more than the skills and training you have received. Your thoughts become your beliefs, and your thoughts determines where “good” (positive) or “bad”(negative) messages are sent from the brain to the rest of the body. There is a complex relationship between the mind and the body. The way you perceive yourself can give rise to feeling of joy, despair, anger, rage that can cause heart disease, asthma, ulcers etc.
We need to understand how our thoughts arise and are influenced; they come into the brain from what we hear, what we see, what we read and what we say to ourselves. Optimism and pessimism are learned attitudinal behaviors and they can be relearned. We need to constantly monitor our attitude to make our own corrections. Therefore examine yourself: what is your outlook on life.
Summary
• Attitude are more important than facts
• How you take it is more important than what happens to you
• Attitude acts as a selective filter affecting perception. We choose to see the best or worst in any situation.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
inspirational Quotes
Inspirational Quote
• First come thought; then organization of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination.
• You dream calls for action. Don’t just dream and fold your arms. Nothing works until you work it.
• Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
• You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
• Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
• Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. Envy is a waste of time; you already have all you need.
• Don't over do. Keep your limits. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
• Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
• Turning all your dreams into reality and all your efforts into great achievements, Don't let yesterday's failures ruin the beauty of today, the blessing of God are new every morning, today has it's own promise of love, forgiveness, joy and success.
• There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.
• "Change is inevitable, growth is intentional."
• However good or bad a situation is, it will change. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
• First come thought; then organization of that thought, into ideas and plans; then transformation of those plans into reality. The beginning, as you will observe, is in your imagination.
• You dream calls for action. Don’t just dream and fold your arms. Nothing works until you work it.
• Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
• You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
• Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
• Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. Envy is a waste of time; you already have all you need.
• Don't over do. Keep your limits. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
• Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
• Turning all your dreams into reality and all your efforts into great achievements, Don't let yesterday's failures ruin the beauty of today, the blessing of God are new every morning, today has it's own promise of love, forgiveness, joy and success.
• There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.
• "Change is inevitable, growth is intentional."
• However good or bad a situation is, it will change. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
Are you beautiful?
ARE U BEAUTIFUL SMART?
At BLACK AND PROUD, We document every prospective model and send their profiles (C.V.) to various companies who need their profile and photo images for Advert placements, Comedy, etc.
You do NOT have to be a professional model to qualify for photo modeling. All you need is to be good looking and photogenic. There are no age limits and no gender barrier for photo modeling jobs. Male, female (young and old) & even children are regularly needed for photo modeling jobs.
It all depends on the message. For e.g. a child can be used for an advert promoting children’s products/services and an old person (man or woman) can be used in an advert to create awareness for things pertaining to old people like pension. We do not train or sponsor any candidate for modeling but only send your profile (C.V.) to companies who visit our office or website requesting for photo models.
Once you are selected, you'll be contacted directly by the company interested in your profile (C.V.) so you can report to our office for the processing of your documents. As an agent, we store our models' profile (C.V.) in our database for processing.
Our Registration & Documentation fee is five Thousand Naira (N5,000) only for adults and four Thousand Naira (N4,000) only for children; payable on application at any branch of Guaranty Trust Bank Nationwide.
Corporate Usher/ Dancer:
• Are you pretty and Stunning?
Do you have a captivating smile? If your answer is yes, then pay three thousand naira only for Registration into Guaranty Trust Bank Nationwide.
Account No: 2117410335110
Name: Paul Adeoye Adeshina
After payment, send us your payment teller, profile and photographs in person OR have them scanned and sent to our e-mail address. blackandproudmediaproductions@gmail.com, or come to our company (Black and Proud Company). is located at Plot 397B, George Crescent, Agbalajobi Estate Off Wempco Road, Opposite Daily Independent Newspaper, Ogba. Ikeja ,Lagos, Nigeria
Yours faithfully,
Adeoye Adeshina
Creative Director
08037145182
At BLACK AND PROUD, We document every prospective model and send their profiles (C.V.) to various companies who need their profile and photo images for Advert placements, Comedy, etc.
You do NOT have to be a professional model to qualify for photo modeling. All you need is to be good looking and photogenic. There are no age limits and no gender barrier for photo modeling jobs. Male, female (young and old) & even children are regularly needed for photo modeling jobs.
It all depends on the message. For e.g. a child can be used for an advert promoting children’s products/services and an old person (man or woman) can be used in an advert to create awareness for things pertaining to old people like pension. We do not train or sponsor any candidate for modeling but only send your profile (C.V.) to companies who visit our office or website requesting for photo models.
Once you are selected, you'll be contacted directly by the company interested in your profile (C.V.) so you can report to our office for the processing of your documents. As an agent, we store our models' profile (C.V.) in our database for processing.
Our Registration & Documentation fee is five Thousand Naira (N5,000) only for adults and four Thousand Naira (N4,000) only for children; payable on application at any branch of Guaranty Trust Bank Nationwide.
Corporate Usher/ Dancer:
• Are you pretty and Stunning?
Do you have a captivating smile? If your answer is yes, then pay three thousand naira only for Registration into Guaranty Trust Bank Nationwide.
Account No: 2117410335110
Name: Paul Adeoye Adeshina
After payment, send us your payment teller, profile and photographs in person OR have them scanned and sent to our e-mail address. blackandproudmediaproductions@gmail.com, or come to our company (Black and Proud Company). is located at Plot 397B, George Crescent, Agbalajobi Estate Off Wempco Road, Opposite Daily Independent Newspaper, Ogba. Ikeja ,Lagos, Nigeria
Yours faithfully,
Adeoye Adeshina
Creative Director
08037145182
Things you must Avoid in a Relationship
THINGS TO AVOID IN A RELATIONSHIP.....
Don’t keep score... Avoid this at all cost, forgive and forget. Get over and get rid of any resentments or they will destroy a relationship. Arguments over money or children and using retaliation to punish or get back for any injury’s to our feelings or pride and ego will upset the apple cart. This spiritual illness will snowball all the way to the end of the divorce, and then after it ends then you see there was no winner only two lonely two lonely losers now are left….
Deoye.. One love!
Don’t keep score... Avoid this at all cost, forgive and forget. Get over and get rid of any resentments or they will destroy a relationship. Arguments over money or children and using retaliation to punish or get back for any injury’s to our feelings or pride and ego will upset the apple cart. This spiritual illness will snowball all the way to the end of the divorce, and then after it ends then you see there was no winner only two lonely two lonely losers now are left….
Deoye.. One love!
Adeshina Real Estate Consultants & Property Management
Adeshina Real Estate Consultants and Property Management
FOR SALE
1. A plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N11m.
2. A plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N14m.
3. 2 plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N18m.
4. 5 bedroom Duplex + A storey building setback at 211Rd, 2
Avenue Nos.9A - N38m.
5. Uncompleted structure of Duplex along 211Rd, fence, gate,water N19m.
6. 3 bedroom flat at 27 Shagari Estate - N8m.
7. 2 plot of land at Gowon Estate, fence, Gate - N17m.
8. One and half plot of land at Gowon, behind
covenant guest house fence, gate - N17m.
9. A plot of land at Abule Egun with bungalow set back - N6m.
10. A plot of land at Baruwa, fence, gate - N6m.
11. A building at Abule Egun along
Ipaja Express way on a plot of land - N13m.
12. 2 plot of land at Majiyagbe Ipaja with building - N7m.
13. 2 plot of land at Okunola, with 2 bungalow setback, fence gate- N20m.
14. 2 bedroom flat a Gowon Estate with good title - N3.5m.
15. Land at at ejigun village near ayobo N600per plot
16. Land at Ijagba behind Obasanjo farm, Ogun State - N350k. per plot
17. Land with Government allocation paper at ray power - N2.5m.
18. Full plot fenced and gated at Ikola Odunsi - N5m.
19. 4 bedroom duplex at Ikola Odunsi completed, fence, water etc - N13m.
20. 3 BEDROOM FLAT AT Jakande Housing Estate Abesan - N4m.
For further enquires, please call Adeoye Adeshina on 08037145182.
FOR SALE
1. A plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N11m.
2. A plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N14m.
3. 2 plot of land at Gamade Estate, fence, Gate - N18m.
4. 5 bedroom Duplex + A storey building setback at 211Rd, 2
Avenue Nos.9A - N38m.
5. Uncompleted structure of Duplex along 211Rd, fence, gate,water N19m.
6. 3 bedroom flat at 27 Shagari Estate - N8m.
7. 2 plot of land at Gowon Estate, fence, Gate - N17m.
8. One and half plot of land at Gowon, behind
covenant guest house fence, gate - N17m.
9. A plot of land at Abule Egun with bungalow set back - N6m.
10. A plot of land at Baruwa, fence, gate - N6m.
11. A building at Abule Egun along
Ipaja Express way on a plot of land - N13m.
12. 2 plot of land at Majiyagbe Ipaja with building - N7m.
13. 2 plot of land at Okunola, with 2 bungalow setback, fence gate- N20m.
14. 2 bedroom flat a Gowon Estate with good title - N3.5m.
15. Land at at ejigun village near ayobo N600per plot
16. Land at Ijagba behind Obasanjo farm, Ogun State - N350k. per plot
17. Land with Government allocation paper at ray power - N2.5m.
18. Full plot fenced and gated at Ikola Odunsi - N5m.
19. 4 bedroom duplex at Ikola Odunsi completed, fence, water etc - N13m.
20. 3 BEDROOM FLAT AT Jakande Housing Estate Abesan - N4m.
For further enquires, please call Adeoye Adeshina on 08037145182.
Monday, January 18, 2010
5 ways to propose to your man
5 Ways to propose to your man
With some guys, if you wait for them to propose, you'll be waiting until the cows come home. There's nothing wrong with a girl letting a guy know that she's ready to make a commitment. Onewed.com shares great ideas on how to propose to your man.
1. Use his hobbies: Showing an interest in what your guy likes, whether it's car repair or computer programming, is a great way of letting a guy know that he is loved and accepted for who he is.
2. Show team spirit: The stereotype of the resentful football widow is so powerful that many women are combining their proposals with tickets to their guy’s favorite team. This helps the guys know that just because you are taking the lead here; it does not mean you're planning on taking over his life.
3. Food! What man can resist food? A favorite meal gives him a taste of what life with you will be like.
4. Pets and kids: Many of the stories we hear are from women who already share pets or kids with their beloved. Involving your children (two-legged or otherwise) is a great way to help remind your guy about what's really important.
5. First dates: Romance isn't just for girls! Let your guy know you remember how it all started, and use those feelings of love and excitement to start your new life together.
Keep it simple ultimately; you have to tell him how you feel. Why add pressure by trying to come up with a cute situation? Out with it! Put it on the line and see what happens. Good Luck!
With some guys, if you wait for them to propose, you'll be waiting until the cows come home. There's nothing wrong with a girl letting a guy know that she's ready to make a commitment. Onewed.com shares great ideas on how to propose to your man.
1. Use his hobbies: Showing an interest in what your guy likes, whether it's car repair or computer programming, is a great way of letting a guy know that he is loved and accepted for who he is.
2. Show team spirit: The stereotype of the resentful football widow is so powerful that many women are combining their proposals with tickets to their guy’s favorite team. This helps the guys know that just because you are taking the lead here; it does not mean you're planning on taking over his life.
3. Food! What man can resist food? A favorite meal gives him a taste of what life with you will be like.
4. Pets and kids: Many of the stories we hear are from women who already share pets or kids with their beloved. Involving your children (two-legged or otherwise) is a great way to help remind your guy about what's really important.
5. First dates: Romance isn't just for girls! Let your guy know you remember how it all started, and use those feelings of love and excitement to start your new life together.
Keep it simple ultimately; you have to tell him how you feel. Why add pressure by trying to come up with a cute situation? Out with it! Put it on the line and see what happens. Good Luck!
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