Have u ever experienced awkward silence when u couldn't think of anything to say? Then you notice something on the girl you're talking to which you love. You want to say something about it but don't exactly know how. Here is how to do that without offending her or being too forward.
Think before you speak: Don't just open your mouth and blurt out d first thing you think of because it may come out in d wrong way or she may hear it the wrong way. Take a second 2make sure its something she would like to hear.
Decide what you want to: You can compliment, and you can flirt. Be sure you know what u want. Girls can easily mistake a simple compliment as a flirtatious signal, so make yourself clear -a compliment is made and then u move on. Flirting is accompanied by a special smile, lingering eye contact, or an unnecessary touch.
Keep to the point: If the compliment is about something material, like a bracelet or a shirt, it's totally easy. If it's something like d way she tot about a topic in class or something, be careful, because u don't want 2 sound like too much of a know-it-all. Keep your comment brief and don't gush, especially if you don't know her well.
Speak when it’s timely: Don't wait till the moment has passed. Tell her how much you like
whatever it is before someone else nearby does. You feel awkward (and can look/sound like a
joiner) when someone else compliments, and you're chiming in after them with, "yeah... I like it, too" or - even worse -you remain silent.
Notice her Appearance (not her looks): When she's wearing something cute or looks nice, say something low-key. "Whoa, you look totally great today!" is really awkward, unless you're dating the girl. There are a lot of things that indicate a girl looks good that have nothing to do with her features, or even her clothing. For example, if her hair is normally wavy, but it's straight today, and it looks especially lustrous, if you say something like, "hey, did you straighten your hair or something? That's a great look for you", it will go over better.
Stop, look, and Listen: Once you've remarked on the object, look at her face when she's
answering you. Don't stare at the thing you complimented. You'll look obsessed. Listen to what she's telling you so you can respond. You can make some sort of acknowledging remarks, such as, "Mm hmm." If she got an amazing deal, for example, it was found at a flea market for 75 cents, or something like that, you are allowed to gush a little bit ("No way!").
Gauge her response. If she seems pretty friendly, you may have just made a new friend. If, after step one or two she says something very short or curt, such as, "At the swap meet." and leaves it there, she's probably not interested in conversing, at least about that, at that moment. (Tips) Smile, and don't be offended if she doesn't compliment you back. Everyone wants to hear something like, "You look great today, Skye!" Some girls react solely on their emotions. So, even when they can't see through your gesture as genuinely nice and be happy that you
took the time to open your mouth to spit some horrible game at them, it's not your fault that
they can't respond appropriately to a nice person and simply disregard it as "creepy".
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